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A Month of Summer in Virginia

August 4, 2012

I decided it was time to go home for an extended stay with my son, Gabe.  I wanted to show him Summer in VA and most importantly, have him spend some time with his family in the Southeast.  Gabe and I don’t get to see these wonderful people as much as we’d like and I had begun to really miss them.  I was nervous to be away from my husband for an entire month, but I knew that this experience would be good for all of us.

On this visit I felt Richmond’s hardest pull on me yet since moving away 16 years ago.  This strong and constant tugging on my heart, my mind and soul, right to the very core of who I am now was not entirely pleasant.  On some very basic level I realize that I have avoided coming home for visits in the summertime because of all of the amazing memories I have of summers growing up in Richmond.  They have become painful to remember simply because memories are all they are now.  My youth is over and now I relive it through the eyes of my sisters, brother and son.  I’ve never felt such an aching to live back in Richmond as I did this July.  My son  and I caught fireflies together and listened to the deafening rhythmic crescendos and decrescendos of the cicadas.  Gabe loved the warmth of the humidity and the chill of the ocean and the huge rolling thunderstorms.  And there was the sun.  So much sun.  For a 5 year old kid born in the Pacific Northwest it was just good to be so warm.  We ate blue crabs fresh from the Chesapeake Bay caught by my Uncle Tommy and watched dolphins play at the beach while catching sand fleas and chasing the ghost crabs across the sand.  Gabe learned to swim in VA, a memory he’ll never forget.

My mother broke her shoulder a week before Gabe and I arrived.  She underwent surgery and was out of commission for our entire visit.  This was, of course, a huge disappointment for her as well as for us, but Gabe and I got to spend such an abundance of time together visiting my old friends, some I hadn’t seen in 20+ years, others I hadn’t seen in many years,  that we grew closer,  he was my traveling companion, my co-pilot.  He asked me if we could move to Richmond because he said “it’s beautiful here” and I answered that it was indeed beautiful, very beautiful.  Although I didn’t get as much help as I had originally believed I’d have, I ended up staying busy and not missing a thing.  My father, who lives in VA  Beach had hip replacement surgery before we left, so he was really limping around ready to get on with his surgery.  I ended up getting plenty of help when I needed it.  Thank you to my family who spent time with Gabe, and loved his company.  I am blessed to have so many people who love me and Gabe and Jake.  Thank you to Christina and Paige and Tiffaney.  Thank you to Garth and Aimee.  Thank you to Susan and Lisa.  I can’t believe how lucky I am to have such beautiful people in my life.

I felt warm, tan, loved and really happy.  I found a lot of peace and was able to put some past ghosts to rest.  I will always love RVA and how it’s changed but how it will fundamentally always stay the same.  I felt a new connectedness with the Fan and all of my old stomping grounds and with some of those whom I stomped them with.


When Will Women Be Treated Equally?

June 20, 2012

A friend on facebook posted this little gem that had me red-faced and speechless. What kind of people would want to write an article that shows violence against women as art? This was no anti-violence campaign, but merely a gruesome photo-shoot that portrays women wearing make-up to look as though they’d been beaten, cut, burned and mutilated. If this is not a glorification of violence against women, then I don’t know what is.

The more that women are seen as objects and not people, the more this kind of thing is accepted. Women are already used in pieces for advertising, showing just a stomach or just a bust or thigh. Also, women are turned into things like kegs of beer. What advertisements are telling people is that women are objects and objects are easier to hate, easier to rape, easier to hit.

This is a horrible disgrace and I hope the people involved know how damaging these kinds of images are to women and men alike. When will women be treated as equals to men? When will we be seen for our strength and our willingness to give be seen as an asset and not a weakness? I am ready for equality now.

Countdown to Summer

June 12, 2012

How in the Hell do I begin? This is my life. I have to keep reminding myself of this. My life that just keeps on rolling on, happening all of the time, never stopping until my card is up. I keep thinking about the next event, the next happening the next appointment the next save-the-date on the calendar and the truth is, life is always happening and it’s happening between the big events and the appointments and the trips to the grocery store. I find this fact to be overwhelming most of the time.

The point is that right now I am overwhelmed at the possibilities that lie before me. There are huge changes occurring and I’m trying my dead level best not to worry because that does no good. Things will happen the way they happen.
I will continue to be present and experience the moments between events. I will pull from my past and the present since my future isn’t available to rely on right now. I am looking forward to a major event, July in Richmond, Va. I will be traveling with my son back to my home to see my parents, siblings and friends whom I haven’t seen in years. There will be beach time and pool time and BBQ’s and gatherings and to that I will look forward. Thank goodness for vacations, and to all the times in between.

Day 67

May 7, 2012

I have lost 10 pounds in 67 days.  Project Me is a slow one.  I am pleased to have lost weight at all, I have not managed to incorporate exercise into my life on a consistent basis.  I have changed some dietary habits, but I am not committing to myself and my health the way that I want to be.  

I will not give up, however and I think that is the key.  I am not used to losing weight slowly, I am accustomed to losing it fast and then gaining it back.  Overall I have become more active and I think that is HUGE!  So onward I will go.  Here’s to the next 67 days!


May 7, 2012

I had write a post about MCA (Adam Yauch) from the Beastie Boys and his death at the all-too-young age of 47.

He battled Cancer for 3 years before it took him. This was the soft-spoken BBoy, the more spiritual of the three. His lyrics often standing out as true wisdom and experience.

This icon’s death is the first to really matter to me personally. I found myself crying over this man’s death, a man I’d never met but felt I knew so well. I love the Beastie Boys, they were a part of my adolescence and I still listen to them to this day and i will continue to listen. There will never be another album by them though, there will never be another tour and there will never be another MCA.

Much respect to the Beasties, MCA’s family and to all the fans. You will be missed. Give to Adam’s charities, look him up if you don’t know him, he was a beautiful soul.


April 22, 2012

I have been absent from my blog lately. I took my first solo trip with my son to visit my mother-in-law in Kansas City, MO the first week in April. It was fun to get away and spend some time with one of Gabe’s 4 grandmothers. We had fun visiting parks, taking a train ride (which is one of Gabe’s favorite things to do) and enjoyed each other’s company.

When we got back, Gabe had gotten a cold and Jake had caught one while we were away, then I was next to get it. Still have it actually, but I’m steadily getting better. We found out that Gabe is allergic to Penicillin and thankfully it was a small reaction.

I have been gardening lately and taking care of my lawn. It’s been fun making beds, planting, feeding and mulching. Also weeding, mowing, raking, seeding and fertilizing! I was outside today in the sun enjoying the movement and repetition, taking it easy and getting things done and cleaned after Winter’s mess.

I never thought I’d love gardening this much. The flowers make it great, it’s not just a chore anymore!


Day 7

March 2, 2012

It was a productive week, I lost 7.5 pounds, now most of that is water weight, but if I can average 2 to 3 pounds a week, I’ll be doing just fine.

I still get headaches and feel hungry and grumpy but most of that is subsiding now.  I will now begin this week with  my cardio training.  It’s time to move this body!